Are you a curious person or more of a judgmental person? Hey, we all have our moments of being judgmental, but wouldn’t it be great to be more curious, instead? What I mean is, anytime something happens that you don’t like or you think is “off,” do you judge yourself or someone who is doing something you don’t agree with? Often you see someone do something and you think, “What the hell???” Or, maybe you just blew up or feel off and you say, “God, what is wrong with you, are you an idiot or what?” Is this sounding a little more clear?
Why do we do that? Well, I hate to admit it, but we are human and it is just human nature to judge when we don’t agree or like something. It makes us feel superior. If you rip on someone, maybe for something that you do, as well, by judging them, it makes you feel better. It’s an automatic response. If you are like me right now, as I am writing this, I am thinking, “How horrible are we?” Are you with me here? Sure, it may be automatic, but have we gotten to this point of just judging to make ourselves feel superior? Why don’t we just change our ways?
As just changing our ways sounds so easy, as we all know, it isn’t! Many times we may not even know that we are doing some of the things we may not like in others, or, we may not realize the emotions behind the negative things we do. This makes it difficult to change if you don’t even realize it. But…what if we could?
Guess what? I have a couple ways you can. First, catch yourself anytime you are judging yourself or someone or something else. Then, ask yourself, “Why am I judging this? What about this bothers me?” Get curious. Ask yourself questions. Feed off the answers that come up. You can learn so much about yourself from doing this activity. Plus, you will feel much better not judging. It makes you feel a lot lighter to get curious versus judging. To me, that makes me feel better. This is a great self-care activity to do to help you feel better and give yourself some love.
By doing this one change, it can help you change your ways. It will also help you to change the way you think about the other person or thing. Get curious about them. Ask yourself, “What is going on in their life that is causing this behavior? How are they feeling?” When you start questioning, the answers will come, which allow you to act differently. You will start noticing yourself treating them differently, more conscientious about them and their life and needs.
Another way you can change how you react in the situations you judge is by Tapping. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping. EFT is like acupuncture but without the needles. By tapping with your index finger or first 2 fingers on designated spots on your head and torso, you can relax your nervous system and allow blocked energy to release and flow in a natural way; thus, allowing you to change how you are feeling about different things. Anything, really.
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